If you have a butterfly...

If you have a butterfly - and you let him go - if he comes back - he's yours - if he doesn't - he never was.

When I was in college, I lived in the dormatory. One of my neighbor's had a sign with this saying posted on her door. At the time I had broken up with my boyfriend, but I still wanted to be in the relationship. I was having a really hard time getting over it.

This saying really helped me to let go and wait and see what happened. It helped me get over my obsession with something that apparently wasn't meant to be - but I really wanted it to be and I was hanging on as hard as I could. It was all a waste of time and energy.

I finally let the butterfly go - and he never came back to me...

The lesson learned was to try not to hold on to something that is gone/done/finished. I have tried to "let go" sooner. Letting things flow my naturally.

How many butterflies come back? I suspect that it is none. At least that has been the experience of my life. The butterflies light for a moment - and then they are gone - forever.

One of my favorite movies is "Love is a Many Splendored Thing" and it has a couple of butterfly scenes in it. A reminder to savor the butterfly moments - since you never know how long they will last.

I try to savor the butterfly moments of my life. At least I have the memory of them...